The parenting course I'd like to teach.
Dec. 2nd, 2005 06:24 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
velvetpageIf I taught high school, I'd be looking to create a parenting course similar to, but not identical to, some of those I've heard about.
Standard elements of a parenting course include some basic nutrition, how to manage a budget, simple made-from-scratch recipes, and baby-think-it-over dolls.
Mine would go a lot further.
I'd include some tips on how to start teaching independence. These include setting up the eating area to allow for mess, because mess is better than never letting your child feed herself; the peek-a-boo clothing game, where you pull a shirt on just to the eyes and let the toddler pull it the rest of the way and put in her arms; meeting accidents with, "Uh-oh! Better clean up!" and then helping them do that; and a dress-up chest for really fun practice. When they get to the age for homework, they should have some "together work" and some "alone work" every night - even if the alone work is colouring in a picture.
I'd include some lessons on fostering an interest in literacy. Among these: read, read, read, for yourself and for your child. A child who sees his parents reading the newspaper will eventually pick up a paper and pretend to read for himself. When he does that, ignore the sticky fingers and ask him about what he's "reading." Praise his made-up answers. Do similar things with writing. Have him draw a letter to a relative or to Santa, and let him tell you what he "wrote," then translate at the bottom. Let him sign birthday cards himself. While you make a grocery list, give him a flyer and let him make up his own "list."
I'd teach about learned helplessness - what it is, how it develops, and how to prevent it. In brief, this means: trust your child to do things kids can do. Show them how to do new things, practise with them, and then let them do it; praise their efforts even if it's not quite right. Let them experience success. Also, teach them to play on their own sometimes. It's far too easy to fall into the trap of always entertaining your child, and yet the ability to play alone is crucial to surviving elementary school, where they need to be able to work alone and solve problems alone. Encouraging kids' innate desire to "help" is essential, so let them play with a plastic cup in the dishwater while you dry. Again, a bit of mess is worth the lessons learned.
I'd teach how to approach a parent-teacher relationship, and how to improve your child's odds in the school system. This includes following through on homework, regular communication, and reinforcement of basic school skills like organization.
I'd teach basic elements of discipline - two chances to time out, how to conduct a time-out, how to handle temper tantrums at home and elsewhere, how to give good attention for appropriate behaviour, and most importantly: consistent messages. A child whose parents are constantly disrespecting the adults in their lives will learn that he's allowed to disrespect adults in his life.
In other words, I'd like to give high school students a basic course in early childhood education. And I'd like it to be a mandatory course for all kids graduating, because about 80% of them will be parents at some point or another.
Standard elements of a parenting course include some basic nutrition, how to manage a budget, simple made-from-scratch recipes, and baby-think-it-over dolls.
Mine would go a lot further.
I'd include some tips on how to start teaching independence. These include setting up the eating area to allow for mess, because mess is better than never letting your child feed herself; the peek-a-boo clothing game, where you pull a shirt on just to the eyes and let the toddler pull it the rest of the way and put in her arms; meeting accidents with, "Uh-oh! Better clean up!" and then helping them do that; and a dress-up chest for really fun practice. When they get to the age for homework, they should have some "together work" and some "alone work" every night - even if the alone work is colouring in a picture.
I'd include some lessons on fostering an interest in literacy. Among these: read, read, read, for yourself and for your child. A child who sees his parents reading the newspaper will eventually pick up a paper and pretend to read for himself. When he does that, ignore the sticky fingers and ask him about what he's "reading." Praise his made-up answers. Do similar things with writing. Have him draw a letter to a relative or to Santa, and let him tell you what he "wrote," then translate at the bottom. Let him sign birthday cards himself. While you make a grocery list, give him a flyer and let him make up his own "list."
I'd teach about learned helplessness - what it is, how it develops, and how to prevent it. In brief, this means: trust your child to do things kids can do. Show them how to do new things, practise with them, and then let them do it; praise their efforts even if it's not quite right. Let them experience success. Also, teach them to play on their own sometimes. It's far too easy to fall into the trap of always entertaining your child, and yet the ability to play alone is crucial to surviving elementary school, where they need to be able to work alone and solve problems alone. Encouraging kids' innate desire to "help" is essential, so let them play with a plastic cup in the dishwater while you dry. Again, a bit of mess is worth the lessons learned.
I'd teach how to approach a parent-teacher relationship, and how to improve your child's odds in the school system. This includes following through on homework, regular communication, and reinforcement of basic school skills like organization.
I'd teach basic elements of discipline - two chances to time out, how to conduct a time-out, how to handle temper tantrums at home and elsewhere, how to give good attention for appropriate behaviour, and most importantly: consistent messages. A child whose parents are constantly disrespecting the adults in their lives will learn that he's allowed to disrespect adults in his life.
In other words, I'd like to give high school students a basic course in early childhood education. And I'd like it to be a mandatory course for all kids graduating, because about 80% of them will be parents at some point or another.