I got through most of the comments that were posted at the time I read it in a fit of mascochism, though it wasn't so bad... there were a lot of stories about good guys, and only a few people needing cluebats, and it wasn't 8 (i think? don't remember how many there were when i read it) pages of people talking at each other which often happens.
And it's awful that the vast majority of women reading this post are nodding their heads in agreement with it, because they do it, too.
*nods*
it's particularly an issue for me because I'm at the point where I wonder why someone would bother to deal with the fears I have which aren't going anywhere any time soon and will probably remain on some level. i can imagine getting really comfortable with someone and trusting them. i can't imagine getting to the point where i will never cringe when they touch me (i can imagine getting to the point where i won't cringe very often), and i know that will hurt them.
but that's neither here nor there.
I don't know how to teach that either, but it's an important thing to teach. I've never been able to decide whether I want boy children or girl children. They're both difficult. Girls needed to be taught self-respect and they need to be taught not to be afraid (but to still protect themselves somehow). And boys need to be raised to be gentle and loving and respect women. And both need to not be forced into gender roles. the rest is the same for both girls and boys: they have to be taught about racism and about homophobia and about disabilities and appreciation (not mere tolerance) and love for people who are different... so much work and so important.
and it's hard with ten year olds...as a teacher you have a huge role in their lives, almost as big as their parents if not more in some cases, because you're with them all day, day in and day out. But at ten, sex is funny and embarassing and rape is something their parents probably don't want them worrying about yet. i wish i had something to offer, but i don't. but i wish you lots of luck with it and i think you can do it.
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Date: 2009-06-11 02:45 am (UTC)And it's awful that the vast majority of women reading this post are nodding their heads in agreement with it, because they do it, too.
*nods*
it's particularly an issue for me because I'm at the point where I wonder why someone would bother to deal with the fears I have which aren't going anywhere any time soon and will probably remain on some level. i can imagine getting really comfortable with someone and trusting them. i can't imagine getting to the point where i will never cringe when they touch me (i can imagine getting to the point where i won't cringe very often), and i know that will hurt them.
but that's neither here nor there.
I don't know how to teach that either, but it's an important thing to teach. I've never been able to decide whether I want boy children or girl children. They're both difficult. Girls needed to be taught self-respect and they need to be taught not to be afraid (but to still protect themselves somehow). And boys need to be raised to be gentle and loving and respect women. And both need to not be forced into gender roles. the rest is the same for both girls and boys: they have to be taught about racism and about homophobia and about disabilities and appreciation (not mere tolerance) and love for people who are different... so much work and so important.
and it's hard with ten year olds...as a teacher you have a huge role in their lives, almost as big as their parents if not more in some cases, because you're with them all day, day in and day out. But at ten, sex is funny and embarassing and rape is something their parents probably don't want them worrying about yet. i wish i had something to offer, but i don't. but i wish you lots of luck with it and i think you can do it.