The person that was formerly on your friends list didn't pull herself up by her bootstraps...she had help. Plus she must not be that intelligent when she can't see that the odds are against social mobility and that the gap between the rich and the poor keeps getting wider.

On the other hand a lot of people expect a free ride. I would think that I'm also a situationist to the same degree that you are. I'm pretty sure that you value hard work but also recognize the role that luck sometimes plays in our lives.