I'm still at the little lessons of parenting - "If you come downstairs to drink your milk before bedtime, and wander off without finishing it and get out a toy, I'm going to assume you don't want your milk anymore and you're going straight to bed without it." This week was the first time I let her play at a friend's house whose parents were not good friends of mine - they were just a family down the street whose two sons wanted to play with my daughter, and I stood at the end of my driveway and watched her walk six doors down and go play in their backyard. I like to think that, in the long run, I'm going to be teaching her to be a secure, healthy person who makes her own choices and doesn't blame others for her mistakes.

I think I'll look up that book. I've heard of her before - she's the foremost expert in North America on bullying, so her work is available in schools for that.