Very true. And if it happens in the context of a relationship, they blame themselves even more - for thinking he was okay, for not getting out sooner, etc, etc.

I made the point very briefly to a few of my girls that it was entirely up to them when they had sex, that if they couldn't see their way clear to either a baby or an abortion, they needed to use extremely good protection and/or wait a long time. But I don't teach girls at the age when this is more than a distant possibility, and I worry for them.