frankly I'm not keen to have unknown people too close when walking home at night of whatever gender. And it isn't "safe" waiting at the bus stop, either. That post was hard going and the message I got was "tough s**t, male, you can't win ANY way". I have problems dealing with people in any case and frankly, I can't be handling other peoples perceptions of me based on appearance, presumption and prejudice. Oh BTW FYI white, fat, bald, moustached male, 52, straight, and increasingly misanthropic.