Makes sense, as long as she's able to get whatever accommodations are necessary without the label.
I guess...it's just that I was a high achiever through high school, you know? I graduated with a 94% average in my top six (out of ten or eleven) OACs. But I always felt that I wasn't achieving as highly as my intelligence should have enabled me to. I mysteriously had trouble handing in assignments. I was the queen of procrastination. I had trouble getting good at musical instruments because I couldn't get myself to practice. I was late for everything. My mom was always bugging me about cleaning things up, taking too long for things, making people late, etc. But I'm not sure OTHER people would have thought I was underachieving significantly--except for one teacher who clued in about what might be wrong with me in late high school, but kept it to herself because she didn't think my mother would agree to have me assessed and she thought it might not be worth it to have me dealing with that in the middle of IB anyway. I found out when I came back and visited her at the start of my second year of university, I told her what was going on, and she 'fessed up to me.
And the thing is, I felt SO guilty for all of it, and I became unable to distinguish when I was and wasn't trying because whenever I was trying and didn't succeed, people said I must not be trying. It was really psychologically damaging to grow up undiagnosed, even though my academic underachievement didn't become serious until university.
I'm not saying Elizabeth is or will be in the same situation as me. I mean, I've never even met her; I can't possibly know. I just say this to caution that it's not just lack of achievement that can justify assessment--general, pervasive life problems that cause hassles, get the kid repeatedly nagged by authority figures without major improvement ever happening, and may be attributable to a recognized disorder also deserve assessment, in my view. Whether Elizabeth has or will have such problems, I don't know. That's up to you and Piet to judge.
Also, please tell me if it bothers you when I say things like this. I find you harder than average to "read" emotionally on the Internet. (Not your fault; it's just a quirk, but it makes me worry that I may offend you without knowing it.)
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I guess...it's just that I was a high achiever through high school, you know? I graduated with a 94% average in my top six (out of ten or eleven) OACs. But I always felt that I wasn't achieving as highly as my intelligence should have enabled me to. I mysteriously had trouble handing in assignments. I was the queen of procrastination. I had trouble getting good at musical instruments because I couldn't get myself to practice. I was late for everything. My mom was always bugging me about cleaning things up, taking too long for things, making people late, etc. But I'm not sure OTHER people would have thought I was underachieving significantly--except for one teacher who clued in about what might be wrong with me in late high school, but kept it to herself because she didn't think my mother would agree to have me assessed and she thought it might not be worth it to have me dealing with that in the middle of IB anyway. I found out when I came back and visited her at the start of my second year of university, I told her what was going on, and she 'fessed up to me.
And the thing is, I felt SO guilty for all of it, and I became unable to distinguish when I was and wasn't trying because whenever I was trying and didn't succeed, people said I must not be trying. It was really psychologically damaging to grow up undiagnosed, even though my academic underachievement didn't become serious until university.
I'm not saying Elizabeth is or will be in the same situation as me. I mean, I've never even met her; I can't possibly know. I just say this to caution that it's not just lack of achievement that can justify assessment--general, pervasive life problems that cause hassles, get the kid repeatedly nagged by authority figures without major improvement ever happening, and may be attributable to a recognized disorder also deserve assessment, in my view. Whether Elizabeth has or will have such problems, I don't know. That's up to you and Piet to judge.
Also, please tell me if it bothers you when I say things like this. I find you harder than average to "read" emotionally on the Internet. (Not your fault; it's just a quirk, but it makes me worry that I may offend you without knowing it.)