"The church should be able to do whatever they want, as long as they aren't getting any tax breaks from the government."

I'm not sure I agree here. I mean, charitable organizations come in all shapes and sizes. I get a tax break for the money I donate to them, and they get some as a charitable organization. There are plenty of charities that I do not support for philosophical reasons. I don't get a tax break for money I don't give them, obviously, but I have no problem with them paying taxes as charities. Just because many churches discriminate in one area does not mean they do not do good work. Most organizations have criteria for membership. Some have more livable criteria than others. But their charitable status should not be in jeopardy because the laws are changing faster than their viewpoint.

Also, though I agree that many Christians are homophobic, it is possible to disagree with something without being phobic about it. There is a difference between disagreement and persecution. I understand the Christians who are tired of being told they're bad people over this one. It does get tiresome. I believe most Christians who feel this way simply do not know any gay people who might help them change their minds. That's not homophobia; it's being informed by one's own media. My viewpoint on this has changed in part because I do know people on the other side of this issue, the side I never saw from within the Church. We can't blame them for not having any gay friends. The Church will change, one mind at a time, until the majority see homosexuality as a non-issue.