Speaking as one who was for many years and evangelical Christian, I know that this is a hard issue to muddle through, much less take a stand that is contrary to the majority of church members.

It's an issue that had much to do with my gradual alienation from the church. I had a friend, an evangelical gay man, who was told not to go to various congregations by various pastors because he had aids. Bit of an eye-opener for me.

I think that as long as one person's rights as a human being are being denied, then it is time to deal with it.